GUEST OPINION: Abuse victims can find help under one roof

  • A student walks past a display at Santa Rosa Junior College marking Domestic Violence Awareness Month. (The Press Democrat, 2001)

Marina first came to one of the YWCA's support groups a few years ago. Her story was like any other story of an abused woman. She had met a man who was charming, who seemed to truly love her, and it wasn't until she moved in with him that his behavior changed.

He wanted to know where she was all the time, who she was with and what she was doing. He told her that it was because he wanted what was best for her and to protect her. Marina wouldn't realize until much later that she did, indeed, need protection. She needed protection from the man she loved.

The physical abuse began when Marina became pregnant. It began with him slapping her across her face and progressed to him punching her in her abdomen. Miraculously, Marina delivered a healthy baby boy. She was now faced with the fear that her son would be abused. She was also faced with the threat of deportation more than ever.

Yes, Marina was like any other abused woman except she had come here from Mexico with her parents as a child and did not have legal status. This made her even more vulnerable as her abuser, a legal permanent resident, constantly threatened to have her deported, which meant she would lose her son, who had been born in the United States and was therefore a U.S. citizen.

One night, Marina was beaten badly enough that she called 911, badly enough to risk deportation and losing her son. Her abuser was arrested, and she was taken to the hospital where she received medical treatment for her injuries and more importantly, information about a special visa for victims of violent crimes, the U-Visa.

Marina contacted Catholic Charities, and there she met an immigration specialist who assists with U-Visas. The U-Visa was enacted to protect our communities from violent criminals by protecting victims who can then cooperate with police and prosecutors. Marina did just that, and her abuser was found guilty and sentenced.

Three years later, Marina is a legal permanent resident. She continues to work full-time to support her son and is raising him to be a man who respects women. This woman who had once lived in fear can now look forward to a life free of abuse.

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