David Aggio has been gone almost three months now, gone somewhere his daughter can't see him, can't hug him. But Kayla can still feel him, still feel him coursing through her consciousness, influencing her waking thoughts and she'll be darned if she's going to let that go.
So Kayla texts her dad, sometimes once a day, for weeks on end. Won't be anything sensational. Just a hello. Other times she'll call David up, leaving a message she knows won't be returned. Nothing specific to say. It just feels good, you know, to say hi. It's what kids do, the ones who have been made to feel safe and secure inside that parent bubble.
"Hi, Prid. It's daddy. I love you and good luck at your tourney this weekend. I'll be praying for you."
Kayla listens to a lot of David's voice messages that are on her cell phone but that one gets the most ear time. "Prid" was what he called her ever since Kayla can remember. "Prid" evolved from "Pretty." To hear his voice, it's like David is right next to her, walking with her, every step, which is how it was.
"He may have been the only person who never ever gave up on me," said Aggio, a 2012 Rancho Cotate graduate. "He loved me unconditionally. He taught me how to love, how to have faith."
David taught Kayla not everyone can climb over and above defeat. Anyone can quit. That's easy. But finding a way out of the tunnel, to find the light, well, one will need a spine for that. There will be some bruising along the way. The past seven months have bruised her.
"It's been the worst time of my life and it's been the best time," she said.
Kayla lost a woman she held dear to her heart, her great grandmother, last November. In December, partially from wrestling burnout, she nearly became academically ineligible at Oklahoma City University, having failed to pass a one-unit class; she made that unit up. Around that time, she and her boyfriend broke off their serious relationship. And then came March 8, when David was killed in a car accident in Bakersfield.
"I thought it was a joke when my brother first called me," she said.
A strong Christian, Kayla began experiencing a weakening of faith. Feeling burdened, she admitted she was in "a dark place."
Well, that pretty much takes care of "the worst time of my life." Here comes the "best" part.
Today, Aggio, 20, will fly from Oklahoma City to Madison, Wis., to compete Saturday in the U.S. World Team Trials. A two-time All-American, she will compete in the Junior World Championships Aug. 5-10 in Zagreb, Croatia. Those two trips are the result of Aggio's earning a place on the U.S. Junior World Team by winning the 145.5-pound title at the prestigious Body Bar FILA Junior Nationals on May 18 in Irving, Texas.
"Kayla destroyed everyone at Body Bar," said Archie Randall, the head wrestling coach at Oklahoma City University, the legendary national power. "No one came close to her. She was in command the entire time. Her work habits are phenomenal. Her weight is under control. Her GPA is a solid 2.98. I am so proud of her. The last year has been very tough on her. She has come such a long way."
Press Democrat Poll
What type of warning did you receive about last October’s fires? (Multiple responses allowed)
Official alert on my landline: 5 percent
Official alert on my cellphone: 17 percent
Neighbor warned me: 14 percent
Family member or friend warned me: 28 percent
Police or fire came to my home to warn me: 5 percent
None: 43 percent
Don’t know: 1 percent
In the future, how would you like to be notified about a fire or other impending disaster?
Phone call: 31 percent
Text message: 30 percent
Email: 1 percent
Air raid siren: 28 percent
Other (specify): 7 percent
Don’t know: 3 percent
Do you think Sonoma County is more prepared today to warn you about fires or disasters than it was last year?
Yes: 54 percent
No: 31 percent
Don’t know: 15 percent
SOURCE: The Press Democrat Poll/David Binder Research