"Someone got murdered at a Giants game," my son Grant said.
"Don't tell me," I said.
You have to understand I was in St. Louis in a hotel room, Grant and I there for the 49ers-Rams game. Grant, 25, had come across an article about the killing on the Internet. I could see he stopped reading. He was shaking his head. Neither of us wanted to know the details — not yet.
News like this is unbearable, unimaginable. It makes me think, "That could be my son dead after a ballgame. That was someone else's son. God help us all."
The story, when I finally brought myself to read it, made me want to shout obscenities at the world.
I never go to sporting events as a fan. I am not a fan. I am a journalist. I don't sit with fans. I don't really know fans. So, what I'm about to write may seem naive, even ignorant. I need to get this off my chest.
I am so sorry for Jonathan Denver from Fort Bragg and for his family. He was 24 and he got stabbed to death after a Giants game. I withhold judgment about Michael Montgomery from Lodi, who allegedly killed Denver. Montgomery has been released from police custody and may have acted in self-defense. I don't know the details. They will come out.
From what I read, Denver, a Dodgers fan, was wearing Dodgers gear. If my son were going to a Giants game I would advise him not to wear Dodgers gear. If he were going to a Dodgers game I would advise him not to wear Giants gear. If he were going to a 49ers game I would advise him not to wear Raiders gear.
And on and on.
This applies to fans of professional teams everywhere in the United States. If you're in Missouri, don't wear Cardinals stuff at a Kansas City Royals game. Don't put yourself at risk.