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Kristof: Trading kids is like trading cars, only easier

A few ads offering free children on the Internet: "Born in October of 2000 — this handsome boy, 'Rick,' was placed from India a year ago and is obedient and eager to please."

"We adopted an 8-year-old girl from China. ... Unfortunately, we are now struggling, having been home for 5 days."

"Prayerfully seeking a loving and nurturing family for our 14-year-old daughter who has been with us for almost a year. She honestly is almost a model child."

This is "private re-homing," something that once meant finding a new home for a dog that barked too much. Now it refers to families recycling their adopted children, often through Internet postings.

There are commonly no courts involved, no lawyers, no social service agencies and no vetting of the new parents. There's less formality than the transfer of a car.

Private re-homing of adoptive children was explored in a devastating five-part investigative series this fall from Reuters. The reporters found that, on one Yahoo message board, a child was offered for re-homing on average once a week (Yahoo has since closed the board). Most of the children ranged in age from 6 to 14 and had been adopted abroad, but some were American-born.

When one troubled Russian girl was 12 years old, she was re-homed three times within six months and told Reuters that, by the time she was 13, a boy at one of the homes had sex with her — and then urinated on her.

A Chinese girl crippled by polio ended up in a home where a woman with an explosive temper was eventually overseeing 18 children. The girl says that the woman confiscated her leg brace, which she needed to walk. And, according to court records, the woman, as a form of punishment, once ordered her to dig a hole in the backyard — for her own grave.

"You die here and no one will know," the Chinese girl quoted the woman as saying. "No one will find you."

The families handing over the children are at wit's end. They typically adopted children with serious emotional troubles who, they say, brought fear, chaos and sometimes violence to their homes. Parents of one adopted boy said they felt they had to lock him in his room every night for the safety of everyone else.


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