Thomas Patrick Graham wrote songs for his wife; he planted flowers for her, too. He worked for hospitals, bookstores and farms. He read histories and murder mysteries.
He fished at Lake Sonoma with his brothers. He dropped out of high school; later, he would graduate fifth in his UC Berkeley class with a bachelor's degree in cultural anthropology.
"He was my hero," said his partner of 17 years, Mary Gannon Graham of Sebastopol. "He was smart and had a lust for life and a thirst for knowledge."
Thomas Graham died July 23 of a heart attack he suffered in the garden of his Sebastopol home. He was 54 and known to many as a former manager of Copperfield's Books in Montgomery Village, though at his death he was working on a farm.
Graham was born Dec. 5, 1958, to John Joseph Graham, who worked for the Department of Veterans Affairs, and Mary Evelyn Graham, who worked for Contra Costa County.
He did not finish high school — "He had a very colorful childhood," said Gannon Graham. "He just enjoyed life to the fullest, let's put it that way."
When he was 19, he visited his brother John, who died in 2011, in Sonoma County and, said his wife, "fell in love with it and decided to stay."
Graham, who made his home first in Santa Rosa, worked numerous and varied jobs over the years.
For many years he was a certified purchasing agent who worked for companies including North Bay Rehabilitation Services, Palm Drive Hospital and Reach, the medical helicopter ambulance service.
He also worked for a time at Harmony Farm Supply in Sebastopol, from where he would bring home sick plants that he would nurse back to health in a special section of his garden.