An elderly couple faces their own end in ‘My Love, Don't Cross That River'

Shot over a period of many months, the sad, sweet South Korean documentary follows an elderly husband and wife in their final stage of life.|

Shot over a period of many months, the sad, sweet South Korean documentary “My Love, Don't Cross That River” follows an elderly husband and wife, Byeong-man Jo and Kang Gye-Yeol, as they navigate, together, the inevitable leave-taking that must come between lovers of an advanced age.

Married for 70-some years, they announce that he's 98 at one point, and she's 89, although the lack of narration and onscreen titles makes it unclear exactly what time period the film covers.

There is no doubt, however, about where the film is heading, since it opens with a scene of mourning.

It almost immediately flashes back a year or so to scenes of the couple going about their daily lives: cleaning house; celebrating New Year's with their children and grandchildren; playfully splashing water at each other and engaging in other gentle horseplay; and falling asleep holding each other's hands, as they always do.

It is hard not to smile at their tender and undeniably loving relationship. But a persistent cough bodes ill, and we see one of them grow weaker and sicker as the film progresses.

Director Mo-young Jin seems to have had extraordinary access to the couple, which we see at doctor's visits and during such intimate moments as bathtime. Nothing seems staged, although the frequently matching fancy outfits they wear sometimes appear chosen for the camera.

The vérité style of filmmaking is slow and sometimes monotonous, making it all the more surprising that you will probably find yourself bawling your eyes out at the film's profoundly, heartbreakingly somber conclusion.

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