Giving thanks in Sonoma County: Personal stories show power of gratitude
Nearly four centuries after the first Thanksgiving, Americans of all backgrounds continue to gather each November for a shared meal and a chance to give thanks for the gifts we have been given. It’s also a perfect opportunity to explore the notion of gratitude - of conscious and deliberate reflection on the grace that surrounds us and what we do with the generosity of others.
In Sonoma County, that can take many forms. In the following vignettes, a farmer gives thanks for the seasons and looks for the bright side of whatever nature brings. A spiritual leader cultivates gratitude as an antidote to the negativity that burdens our society. A fire victim is enveloped by the help of his community, and a role model uses his personal gratitude as a springboard for helping others.
The stakes may be higher around this year’s dinner tables as current events raise profound questions about the kind of country we live in and lay bare the wide gaps between haves and have nots. Cultivating gratitude may boil down to finding smaller reasons to feel grateful, as Santa Rosa Police Officer Orlando Macias has done.
“I’m grateful to have made something of an angry and hurt young person - and that was me.”
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Jennifer Branham has learned by working on a Sonoma County farm to be grateful for the seasons, no matter what they bring.
Branham, the 43-year old co-owner of Laguna Farm in Sebastopol, sees both sunny days and storms as opportunities to give the farm something it needs.
While others might view a flood as categorically bad news, for Branham, whose farm is situated on 25 acres along the Laguna de Santa Rosa, it’s an expected event that nourishes the soil. The same is also true for summer scorchers, which ripen the crops and give rise to much-needed breaks.
“There’s always some wonderful benefit that the weather brings, and in Sonoma County it often brings abundance, or it brings change, or it brings rest or it brings fertility,” she said.
Branham came to Laguna Farm 11 years ago to distribute produce, work on environmental stewardship, organize volunteers, hold events and generate community awareness about buying directly from local producers. She worked on the farm’s community supported agriculture program, through which hundreds of local families buy weekly boxes of produce year-round.
Having taken over the business with field manager Ignacio Romero several years ago, Branham said she greatly appreciates that the farm’s founder, Scott Mathieson, sold the operation to her and Romero.
The sense of purpose built into the business fuels her gratitude, making her want to work harder each day, she said. It also supports her unrelenting optimism.
“You can look at the flood as devastating, or you can look at the flood as nourishing. The flood is going to happen either way,” Branham said. “You just get the most out of every situation by being grateful and seeing the bright side, or the sunny side or the glass half full.”
- J.D. Morris
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For Sonoma-based Zen Buddhist priest Kathryn Stark, gratitude is more than a fleeting emotion. It’s a force that informs her daily life.
Stark, 66, works full time as a spiritual support counselor for Hospice by the Bay, providing interfaith chaplain services to patients and their relatives in Sonoma, Napa and Vallejo.
Most of the people she sees, particularly those who are elderly, express deep gratitude for their families, the relationships they’ve forged and the experiences they’ve taken in.
Stark, who needed two years to recover from major injuries sustained in 2005 car crash, said gratitude can come recognizing our own fragility.
“Doing this work clearly makes you grateful for your life because, as my accident taught me, we never know from one moment to the next what’s going to happen,” Stark said. “When I walk out of a visit, and I look up and I breathe the fresh air, it’s just like, I’m so grateful for every moment, because the reality is, we only have the moment.”
An ordained Soto Zen priest and Dharma teacher, Stark believes gratitude can combat many of the negative feelings in the world around us.
“That’s not to say that we shouldn’t feel painful emotions. I think it’s important to know our experience and not turn away from our experience, whatever that is,” Stark said.
“It’s also a really difficult time in our world, in our country and our society ... so it’s not to turn a blind eye to the problems and the needs that are out there. But if we can feel grateful for the blessings that we do have in our life, it can be a great antidote to the negativity.”
Gratitude will be the focus of a homily Stark delivers today at an interfaith service offered by the Sonoma Valley Ministerial Association and hosted by Congregation Shir Shalom at First Congregational Church in Sonoma.
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