Dear Abby: I have been married for five years, and my husband and I recently decided to try to have a baby. I am really excited about the possibility of being a mom. My problem is, my parents and his parents don’t want to be grandparents.

I will be 30 this year, and they keep telling me I should wait until I’m 40 to have kids. I have endometriosis, and I know if I wait too long it will be even harder to get pregnant.

On top of all the pressure our families are putting me under, I just found out my sister has been married almost a year and hasn’t told anyone. I don’t want to disappoint our families or force something on them they are not ready for. I’m not sure what to do now. I want my husband and me to be happy. Any advice would be appreciated.

— Stressed out in Ohio

Dear Stressed: I know you want to be a good daughter, but you are allowing your parents (and in-laws) to weigh in on a decision that should be yours and your husband’s alone. Your reason for not wanting to postpone motherhood makes sense.

Understand that not everyone wants to be a grandparent and be glad you’re finding out upfront that the parents will not be baby-sitting. Many disappointed readers have written me after the fact to express their dismay when they realized it. Take from this the lesson that you must live your own life.

And, by the way, so should your sister. If there are consequences from her elopement, she should experience them. But under no circumstances should you allow yourself to be dragged into her drama.

Wine writer Peg Melnik perused the aisles and came up with a list of 8 wines and 2 beers that she would take a chance on, either because she trusts the brand or the region the grapes came from. What’s to lose when the price is less than $10?

1. Cline, 2013 Sonoma County Syrah, $4.99.

2. Meridian Vineyards, 2010 California Red Blend, $2.99

3. Columbia Winery, 2009 Merlot $4.99.

4. Cycles Gladiator, 2012 Lodi Viognier, $3.99.

5. Steelhead Vineyards, 2012 Sonoma County Chardonnay, $6.99.

6. Rosso, Terre di Chieti Dry Red Wine, Italy, $3.99.

7. Long Barn, 2014 California Merlot, $4.99.

8. Indigo Eyes, 2013 California Cabernet Sauvignon, $5.99.

9. Lagunas IPA beer, $4.39.

10. Bear Republic IPA beer, $4.39.


Peg Melnik's wine blog: Tasting Room