Friends of Alejandro Ortega mourn his death at St. Rose Church, Dec. 9, 2009 in Santa Rosa. Ortega was gunned down near Moorland Ave. and Neville Way early Saturday morning Nov. 28, 2009. (Kent Porter / Press Democrat) 2009

2 weeks after Alejandro Ortega, 18, was gunned down in Santa Rosa, his family agonizes over what more they could have done to keep him on the right path

Six years ago, Rigoberto Ortega was waxing the floor at 3 a.m. at the Rohnert Park Wal-Mart when he was called to the phone.

He heard his 12-year-old son Alejandro sobbing, begging him to come and get him from his ex-wife's home where he shared a bedroom with his mother, younger sister and younger brother. Ortega didn't go. An extremely difficult divorce had made the home off limits.

"I've never told anyone this," Ortega said in Spanish. "My boy was crying and he said, &‘Please come for me,' because he didn't want to be there."

It was an episode that should have been lost amid a lifetime of good and bad memories. But now the 49-year-old father can't get it out of his mind. He has come to realize that it was the last time his son reached out to him for help.

On Wednesday, Ortega buried 18-year-old Alejandro in a Santa Rosa grave, the latest fatality of North Coast gang violence. Ortega cannot help but wonder if things could have been different.

"When they're with you, you tell yourself that you're doing everything you can for them," he said as a backhoe crept toward his son's plot at Santa Rosa Memorial Park, a slab of concrete swinging slightly on a chain-link cable.

"But it's never enough, there's always more you can do," said the 25-year resident of Sonoma County. "We have to do something. We can't continue to let our kids end up laying dead on the streets."

Alejandro Ortega's body was found just before 3:30 a.m. Nov. 28 near the end of Neville Way, off Moorland Avenue in Santa Rosa's Bellevue neighborhood.

It's a street of modest single-story homes and drab two-story apartment buildings. Dirt and scruffy lawns extend to the curb.

Many hours after Ortega took his last breath, his body remained on the asphalt as Sonoma County sheriff's investigators documented the crime scene, combing the gang-troubled neighborhood for clues. A young woman, jolted from sleep by gunshots, said she first saw the body in the street at 4 a.m. Hours later, she took a digital photo. In it, Ortega is on his back, shirtless. The young woman, who asked not to be identified, said she doesn't know why she took the photo.

The county Coroner's Office said the teenager, who was officially pronounced dead at 3:42 a.m., sustained a single gunshot wound to his "right lateral chest." Sheriff's Lt. Chris Spallino described it as a gang-related shooting over turf, though he would not reveal any details, nor what gangs were involved.

He said that Ortega was not armed with a gun when he was found. "It was a dynamic incident," Spallino said. "I can't give any details about exactly where he was shot or where he came to rest. It's an ongoing investigation and we're still making progress, still actively working it and working leads."

Alejandro Ortega's demise on the cold pavement, though not a common occurrence in Santa Rosa's gang-plagued neighborhoods, is a brutal reminder of high stakes of the dangerous behavior. Years of family turmoil, personal conflict and poor decisions made him a ripe target for the gang milieu.

Three years ago, the elder Ortega moved to Oregon to take a job as a maintenance worker at a cabin lodge. It was shortly after that that Alejandro began having trouble at school, beginning with an incident that got him kicked out of Piner High when he was 16.

School officials, family members said, found a knife on Alejandro, though he told his family he was only holding it for a friend. He soon was enrolled in a Santa Rosa continuation school, but didn't last more than a day, they said. He was jumped by gang members, fought and was bounced from the school.

Family members said Alejandro was always quiet and that in recent years became increasingly withdrawn. His deepening association with gang members created a rift in the family.

"He told me he didn't like to be around the family," said his younger sister Brenda. She often would invite him to visit, but he would refuse because he would only be criticized.

"They would say &‘here he comes with his cap' or &‘here he comes with his jacket,'" she said. "Instead of asking, &‘How are you?' They would say, &‘When are you going to leave this or that behind?'"

Father Ramon Pons, the St. Rose Church priest who conducted Alejandro's funeral Mass, said one thing has become clear to him in his years of talking to young people who end up in gangs.

"They will say it's because they wanted to have a family," he said. "Gangs are not disorganized, they are wholly hierarchical in structure, and that's what young people are looking for in their lives."

The problem, he said, is that these are families of delinquency and crime.

Vince Harper, director of youth and neighborhood services for Community Action Partnership, said kids get involved in gangs for a variety of reasons. For some, it begins with friends they've had since grade school who have now started going down that path. In other cases, it's "safety," especially for those who live in an area dominated by a certain gang.

"There's a lot of pressure to affiliate," he said. "And there's the added feature that you won't want to be on the wrong side."

Parental involvement, vigilance and communication is crucial as kids get older and more independent.

"It's important to stay involved in all aspects of their lives even if they push you away," he said. "A parent has to be prepared to fight and do what they need to do."

Alejandro Ortega's last chance at school, in northwest Santa Rosa, ended in a familiar way. He was involved in fight that broke out with students from another school, family members said. His cell phone was confiscated and authorities found video footage of the fight.

For the teen, who already had been in trouble with juvenile authorities, the incident was a watershed event. The video was proof that he had violated his terms of probation and he was arrested.

After some time in juvenile hall, he was transferred from to the county probation camp near Forestville, where family members said he started to show hopeful signs of wanting to reform.

"He was good there," said his older brother, Armando. "He'd get an hour to go home. You could actually see the progress while he was there."

For reasons no one seems to know, Alejandro ran away from the camp program last spring after serving about half his eight-month term, Ortega said. When they found out, family members went looking for him.

"That night I found him," said his father, who had returned to Santa Rosa, "I got him out of the car he was in and put him in the van his mother was driving. I told him &‘you have to go back,' but he didn't want to."

Ortega said that when he realized his son was set on not going back, he arranged to have probation officers meet them at a predetermined location to have his son taken into custody. The teen was not aware of the plan.

"I got out of the van," said Ortega said. "I made the call, but I couldn't be there. I didn't want to see them arrest him again. I knew it was better that way, but I didn't want to see it."

When Ortega went to visit his son later, he told him he had to complete his term.

"I said to him, &‘I don't want you to think that we want you in here. I just want you to do your time, get out and go back to school," Ortega said. "He told me, &‘All I want to do is work.' He promised me things would get better."

Alejandro was released about three months ago. Ortega recalled the last time he saw him, the Saturday before Thanksgiving.

Ortega and Armando arranged to meet Alejandro to do some paid yardwork. Afterward, the three went to a grocery store to buy beef for tacos and then to Ortega's home in northwest Santa Rosa.

"He ate like you couldn't imagine," Ortega said. "I told him that what I wanted more than anything was this, for him to be safe at home. I asked him, &‘How hard could it be to visit more often?' He said he would. That was the last time I saw him."

At his son's funeral Mass and burial, Ortega eyed with suspicion mourners he did not know and had not invited. They hung at the back of the church, paying their respects like everyone else.

Some young people wore white shirts with a picture of Alejandro. On some were the words: "Retaliation is a must."

Alejandro's immediate family members said they did not agree with that sentiment. Ortega said that during the funeral he hadn't realized what the words meant.

"I want people to realize what's going on," said Ortega. "Parents think they're doing enough, but what do you gain by loving a child and then standing there and watching him throw himself into a hole."

You can reach Staff Writer Martin Espinoza at 521-5213 or martin.espinoza@pressdemocrat.com.

UPDATED: Please read and follow our commenting policy:
  • This is a family newspaper, please use a kind and respectful tone.
  • No profanity, hate speech or personal attacks. No off-topic remarks.
  • No disinformation about current events.
  • We will remove any comments — or commenters — that do not follow this commenting policy.