Petaluma couple’s violent deaths a contrast with long, loving relationship
Bertha Leffler sparked a lifelong love affair when she sent a letter to soldiers fighting in the Korean War and it landed in the hands of Harold Coombes, the man who would become her husband of 63 years. The couple built a life in Petaluma, raising four children there, and Harold's career working with plaster still stands in the form of the larger-than-life chicken sculpture at the Sonoma-Marin Fairgrounds.
Their enmeshed lives ended together suddenly when, last month, Harold, 86, picked up his wife from a clinic, where she'd spent weeks rehabilitating from an ankle injury, and brought her home. The next day, Bertha, 83, was found fatally shot in the bed where she'd spent much of the previous six months following a series of falls, according to family and police. Harold was seated, on the other side of the wall from his wife, having killed himself with the same gun.
Family members say that, although violent, sudden and heartbreaking, they view the way Bertha and Harold died as a reflection of their deeply intertwined lives and an unwillingness to be without the other.
“It was merciful; it was not murder,” said their son-in-law Dave Perry, 63, who worked alongside Harold during their careers as plasterers. “It was a release from a body that wasn't working anymore. They're not in pain now - that's the way we have to think about it.”
After a relative discovered their bodies Jan. 19, police found a will and a handwritten note left out on a table in which Harold matter-of-factly apologized to his family for any inconvenience created by the manner of the couple's deaths. He also warned those who found them to be careful of the gun.
Members of the Coombes' family have said that they firmly believe that Harold and Bertha had decided to die together in this way, ending a mounting list of health challenges and possibly depression.
Investigators agree with the family's assessment, saying the case bears the hallmarks of a murder-suicide not preceded by a history of conflict, but one following a long life of hard work and togetherness. Petaluma Police Sgt. Ed Crosby said that Harold Coombes' final acts appear to have been driven by a combination of exhaustion, devotion and Harold's fears over his diminishing ability to care for his wife.
Perry said they believe Harold may have been motivated by Bertha's stated dread of being sent to a care facility. She did not want to leave their home, he said.
Their deaths highlight common threads among cases of homicide-suicide among the elderly: a male caretaker and an ill wife. Experts say that depression is under-diagnosed among seniors, which is reflected by a high rate of suicide among people age 85 and up compared to the general population.
Loving, harworking pair
Interviews with the Coombes' family as well as police and a family friend create a portrait of a loving, hardworking couple who were private, traditional and loyal. Harold Coombes was a career plasterer and lather who built the iconic white-and-red chicken statue, “Petaluma Pete,” that still stands today at the Sonoma-Marin Fairgrounds in town. Bertha was a homemaker with a large, carefully kept salt-and-pepper shaker collection that included a chicken shaker Harold used as muse for his plaster statue.
Together they raised four children, daughters Gloria Swadley of Penngrove and Joyce Perry of Rohnert Park and sons Richard Gravelle of Rohnert Park and Michael Proffitt of Santa Rosa. They took in the boys, at 1 and 5 years old, from a relative and raised them as their own.
Crosby said that detectives found no evidence that the couple had any problems other than health challenges. Detectives learned that Harold Coombes had, in the past, “mentioned, hypothetically, how he wanted to go in the context of aging” to his family.
“They lived a lifestyle of independence and clearly were able to take care of themselves for some time,” Crosby said. “As best as we can tell, the totality of the circumstances are: We've reached the end of our lives and this is how we've decided to go.”
Their home, in a senior community of mobile homes off North McDowell Boulevard, was immaculate, from the tops of counters to the inside of cupboards, he said. Crosby described the home as the “neatest I've ever seen.”
He said the police investigation is for the most part closed. The only remaining question is whether Bertha had agreed to her fate.
“Only Bertha knows for sure,” Crosby said.
But family members said that in their hearts they are sure.
Perry, who spoke for the family, said Harold had over the years casually mentioned that he would end things if life became too difficult, although at the time Perry took it to be a passing comment. He said he's sure the couple discussed their deaths.
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