How to approach the sex talk

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NEW YORK — One of the first things Al Vernacchio does in his high school Sexuality and Society class is stand at a podium in a sweater vest and tie surrounded by a wall packed with slogans: RESIST HOMOPHOBIA. FIGHT SEXISM. ENJOY LIFE.

What he doesn't do: pass around anatomy drawings or hand out safe sex pamphlets, though he makes those available near the door.

Vernacchio has been in the sex education field for more than 20 years, currently teaching 9th- and 12-graders in the Philadelphia suburb of Wynnewood. He's seen the rise of the abstinence movement, the digital revolution and the impact on teens of parents who don't know how to get the sex conversation started.

"Data shows that when kids enter high school, the vast majority, like 75 percent, have not had sexual intercourse, but that number switches by the time they graduate, when more than half of them have," Vernacchio said.

Yet many kids, he said in a recent interview, shut down their parents when they start to talk about sex. That's one reason he's written "For Goodness Sex," out in September from HarperCollins.

A conversation with Al Vernacchio:

AP: How has the sex talk changed with the rise of the Internet and social media?

Vernacchio: I think parents get very afraid sometimes of the huge amount of information that kids can access today. We need to help kids figure out what kind of information is useful, what is just, for lack of a better word, propaganda, or what's marketing or what's information that doesn't really have their best interests at heart.

AP: What are today's pitfalls in talking to kids about sex?

Vernacchio: Parents need to come at those conversations not from an orientation of disaster but rather from the premise that our sexuality is a force for good, a positive force. That changes the conversation. It's not very helpful for young people to hear long lists of things they shouldn't do and the dangers they will face.

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