Starcross monk offers encouragement and insight through book, ‘Stepping Stones’
‘Nature is something which brings us pleasure. But it does more than that, it takes us beyond the daily grind and therefor helps us gain perspective, refreshes our spirit, helps us find more meaning in life, and gives us a sense of wholeness.”
— “Stepping Stones; Daily Reflections by an Unconventional Monk,” by Tolbert McCarroll
Brother Toby McCarroll, the lay monk from tiny Annapolis, has spent the past 40 years easing the suffering of neglected orphans and children with AIDS. He is still using his gentle, yet powerful voice, to foster peace. In this case, inner peace.
His newest book, “Stepping Stones: Daily Reflections by an Unconventional Monk,” offers day-by-day balm to people like himself, who are, as he puts it, “violet seekers.”
They are the ones who look up at the mountains but also look down, people who “use nature, ordinary daily life, and the ground under our feet, as signposts in finding the sacred core of existence.”
It is a practice that has helped McCarroll stay on the path even in the heavy “fogs” of life. “Holding a dying child in a heartless environment was the precises moment when I realized that I must frequently check my course to the violets,” he writes.
“Stepping Stones” is an attempt to share “little daily nudges of encouragement” with those seeking to live in harmony with nature and the season — whatever season of life they may happen to be moving through.
For the white-bearded monk, who now relies on a walker, it is winter. Not a fierce and cold time, but a quiet time, like soft snowfall.
Woven throughout the passages, which he culled from previous writings, are references to aging. But his book is more of a reflection than a lamentation.
“It has been said that as we grow older we are, if we so choose, better able to hear the music that has lain quietly in our souls,” he writes. ‘“And we become more aware of those moments when it is very important to sing our song. Perhaps that is the lesson to be learned. We just sing our song as best we can, and hopefully in that process our soul grows younger.”
McCarroll hopes that by drawing on nature, a universal connection that transcends age and nationality, “Stepping Stones” can provide a pathway for those approaching the end of life as well as those in the thick of it.
“I found that it was quite interesting to make sure that what I wrote was understood by any age group. But that kept me closer to nature,” he said. “It seems like it’s a common ground for all of us.”
The former civil rights attorney and organizing activist began turning inward in the 1960s and co-founded the small ecumenical Starcross Spiritual Monastery with two other seekers, Sister Mary Martha “Marti” Aggeler and Sister Julian “Julie” DeRossi.
They started in San Francisco but 40 years ago moved to an old farm in Annapolis, in the far northwest corner of Sonoma County. The focus of their work has been children, orphaned or ill. In the early days of the AIDS pandemic they began taking in children with the disease, then a virtual death sentence, and extended their work globally, working with AIDS-stricken orphans in Romania and Africa.