A MONTH OF REDEFINING: 31 DAYS AFTER RULING, SAME-SEX COUPLES CAN NOW SAY `SPOUSE,' BUT PROP. 8 CLOUDS FUTURE
It began with fanfare -- a noisy, jubilant and public civil ceremony he and
his partner shared with dozens of couples, supporters and media on the
historic evening it became legal for gays and lesbians to marry in the state.
A month, a day and more than 200 local same-sex marriages later, change has
set in quietly, said Santa Rosa attorney Jim Eimers, 60.
He had been committed to Rob Wulff, 62, for nearly three decades when they
married June 16. They already owned a house together in Santa Rosa. And they
already were domestic partners, so their benefits didn't change when they
But, for the first time, Eimers can call him, ``my spouse.''
``How many songs are there about `registered domestic partners?''' Eimers
said. ```Spouse' is universal. It's different, no matter what anybody says.''
And it is a label now on the lips of thousands of gay and lesbian couples
who have been married in the 31 days since the state Supreme Court's ruling
redefining marriage took effect.
Employees are still working overtime at the Sonoma County Clerk's Office,
where from June 16 to June 30 alone, 108 same-sex couples were married and at
least 100 more received their licenses and wed elsewhere.
In Mendocino County, which issued just 78 total marriage licenses in June,
15 of those were to same-sex couples on June 17 alone, the first full day
their nuptials were legal, said Sue Ranochak, the clerk-recorder.
County coffers are reaping the benefits of same-sex marriages, said chief
deputy county clerk Vicki Petersen.
Her office's June survey of 45 counties in the state reported $272,798 more
in revenue from marriage license and ceremony fees than the previous June.
``It's huge. We've been crushed with a lot of business,'' Petersen said,
and that has also helped make up for a three-year decline in marriages.
At the same time, opposing sides of Proposition 8 are gearing up for a
fierce fight. The proposed state constitutional amendment would define
marriage as between a man and a woman.
Worries around the ballot outcome seem to be stalling a windfall of
marriage-related business, said Cosette Trautman-Scheiber, owner of the
Hope-Merrill and Hope-Bosworth B&B's in Geyserville.
``It appears like everybody is still waiting,'' she said.
The state Supreme Court refused Wednesday to hear a case to remove the
initiative from the Nov. 4 ballot, which if approved would overturn the
court's May 15 ruling legalizing same-sex marriage.
Opponents had sued June 19 to block a vote on Proposition8. Locals opposed
to the initiative meet tonight in Larkspur.
About 100 attended a town hall meeting in Santa Rosa on Tuesday, said Kate
Kendell, executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights.
Kendell had told the crowd the marriages taking place before November would
remain legal even if, ``under a worst-case scenario,'' the initiative passes.
Sonoma is a key county, she said, because of its significant gay and
lesbian population and its 2000 vote against Proposition 22, which passed
statewide and defined marriage as for heterosexuals only.
The tide appears to have shifted in the years since, as indicated by a