Starcross co-founder Sister Marti dies at 76
Mary Martha Aggeler had flown as a United Airlines flight attendant and worked in a business suit in New York City when the graduate of Catholic schools co-founded a tiny monastic spiritual order, settled in a remote corner of Sonoma County and performed audacious acts of humanity there and around the world.
For more than 40 years, Aggeler was known and honored as Sister Marti of Starcross, the lay community that resides on a 109-acre farm in hilly and timbered Annapolis, inland from The Sea Ranch on the northernmost Sonoma Coast.
Aggeler died there Monday after a yearlong siege of cancer. She was 76.
Despite the remoteness and quiet splendor of the contemplative retreat she created with Tolbert “Brother Toby” McCarroll and Julian DeRossi, better known as Sister Julie, the Starcross trio never withdrew from the hardships and suffering of life.
Instead they mounted missions of caring so ambitious and life-altering that they caught the attention of people across America and far beyond. With Aggeler responsible for much of the business and technological challenges, Starcross provided loving homes to foster children in Annapolis, to AIDS- infected babies in Santa Rosa and in Romania and to AIDS orphans in Uganda.
Aggeler told the Los Angeles Times in 1993, “If you protect yourself from the pain, then you insulate yourself from the joy.”
In addition to acting as parents to scores of ailing and discarded children, she and McCarroll adopted two newborns born to young American mothers who could not provide for them. Their son, David McCarroll, is a classically trained violinist who now lives in Austria and performs with the Vienna Piano Trio. Daughter Holly McCarroll-Baker lives on the Starcross farm with her husband and son and works as a chef and caterer focused on sustainably grown food.
The future Sister Marti was born in Boise, Idaho, on Sept. 24, 1939. Her parents, Harold Griffith Aggeler and Margaret Stankard, had her educated by the Sisters of the Holy Cross.
Needing to find work right out of high school, she flew with United, then found office work in New York City. Also as a young woman in the early 1960s, she took jobs at the New York World’s Fair and in a secret government missile project in Oklahoma.
Amid the tumult and boundary-bursting of the late ’60s, Aggeler found her way to San Francisco. She dabbled in motorcycle clubs and encounter groups, and at the Humanist Institute met McCarroll, a widower and former lawyer.
Soon to be joined by DeRossi, the pair founded Starcross in 1967, bought an old house on Masonic Avenue and began working with at-risk kids, some with severe medical needs. Toby McCarroll recalled that after a few years they came to agree that “for the good of the children and the formation of Starcross’ contemplative life, it was time to move from San Francisco to the country.”
Noted DeRossi. “We really didn’t have money, but we started looking anyway.” She remembers the long drive in 1976 that took them to Annapolis, far west of Geyserville.
“Marti saw this place and said, ‘I think this is it.’”
It was a large ranch on Annapolis Road. The three Catholic laymen approached the caretakers, who told them the owner was in Hawaii.