Santa Rosa chef, winemaker honored by YWCA, help raise $450,000 for survivors of domestic abuse

Liza Hinman of The Spinster Sisters and Mary Dewane of Benovia Winery encouraged event attendees to bid generously at the Gather Sonoma 2024 live auction.|

How to get help

These local, state and national contacts are available to help with various crises:

• National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 888 (call or text)

inRESPONSE mobile mental health support team responding to mental health crises in Santa Rosa: 707-575-HELP (4357)

• YWCA Sonoma County operates a 24/7 domestic violence crisis hotline and a confidential Safe House shelter. Call 707-546-1234 for help.

• Family Justice Center of Sonoma County: 707-565-8255

• Verity, Sonoma County’s rape crisis, trauma, and healing center: 24-hour crisis line 707-545-7273

• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org

• National Alliance on Mental Illness/Sonoma County, provides support groups and resources for families and individuals affected by mental health challenges: 866-960-6264

• 24-hour Emergency Mental Health Unit: 800-746-8181

• Redwood Empire Chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists: recamft.org

Resources also are available for those who have lost someone to suicide:

• Youth Survivors of Suicide Loss Support Group for ages 14-24, meets virtually second and fourth Tuesday every month, 4:30-5:30 p.m. by Buckelew Programs and the Felton Institute. Register and get the Zoom link at bit.ly/4atSS6x.

• SOS: Survivors of Suicide bereavement support group for adults 25 and older by Buckelew Programs, meets virtually the second and fourth Wednesday every month, 7-8:30 p.m. For the Zoom link, call/email 415-444-6000 or SOSinfo@Buckelew.org.

• Sutter VNA & Hospice offers several support groups, including those for survivors of suicide, children who have experienced a loss and parents who have lost a child. Call 707-535-5780 for more information.

Mary Dewane of Benovia Winery and Liza Hinman of The Spinster Sisters restaurant (both in Santa Rosa) were honored May 3 at “Gather Sonoma: A celebration of Women, Wine, Chefs and Cheese,” a fundraiser organized by YWCA Sonoma County at Fairmont Sonoma Mission Inn & Spa in Sonoma.

Dewane, as the Honorary Woman in Wine, and Hinman, as the Honorary Chef, encouraged event attendees — in a video address — to bid generously at a live auction, helping the YWCA raise an estimated $450,000 for survivors of domestic violence. (Dewane was not able to attend the event in person.)

Vital programs

Commenting on the work of YWCA Sonoma County, Dewane said its programs are impressive and vital.

“The YWCA provides the only 24-hour, 7-days-a-week hotline in the county for those experiencing abuse, the only therapeutic preschool and counseling center for children, and the only safe house in the county for women,” she said.

Together with her husband and co-vintner Joe Anderson, Dewane has been a longtime supporter of Sonoma County auctions.

In 2015, the couple were co-chairs of the Sonoma County Wine Auction, where they raised $4.5 million together with local vintner Jean-Charles Boisset, a record at the time. The majority of the funds raised benefited literacy programs in Sonoma County.

Hinman also is well-known for her philanthropy. Among other endeavors, she’s the founder and the current vice president of the Sonoma County Chapter of Les Dames d'Escoffier International, a philanthropic organization that supports women in the field of hospitality.

A safe house

One in four women in the U.S. experience domestic violence, explained Madeleine Keegan O’Connell, the CEO of YWCA Sonoma County, at the Gather Sonoma fundraiser. She stressed that an integral part of the YWCA’s mission is for everyone to be safe in their own home.

Dewane and Hinman recently visited the YWCA’s safe house and said at the event that the women and children there were thriving. Keegan O’Connell introduced a video about the safe house, in which women living there shared their true stories, she said.

One woman, named Wendy, a mother of two with a newborn on the way, said her partner was taking and selling drugs.

“When I confronted him, he bolted off the couch and tried to strangle me in front of the kids,” she said.

Wendy’s sister eventually convinced her she couldn’t remain in the abusive relationship and guided her to the YWCA safe house.

“Every year, I cry when they show the video … How can you not? It’s so heart-wrenching,” said Josh Silvers, chef/co-owner of Jackson’s Bar & Oven in Santa Rosa and an auction regular who attended this year’s fundraiser with his wife, Regina.

Wine for a good cause

21 local winemakers hosted tables at the YWCA fundraiser, each sharing nine bottles of wine, as well as a magnum for an auction lot.

“This is such a good cause for supporting women. It’s always nice to do something women-based,” said Diane Wilson of Wilson Winery in Healdsburg.

One of the auction bidders, Jessica Brown, a lawyer at the San Francisco-based law firm Holland & Knight, said she had no spending limit.

“The YWCA’s mission to empower women is very close to my heart,” she said. “It’s great to see women taking the lead in the food and beverage industry. It’s the perfect event to see those two forces combined.”

As the fundraiser unfolded, there was a lot in play: the rapid-fire banter of the auctioneer, the spiraling lots, the splash of tasty wine and the roll out of delicious entrees. But it was the sweetness of the day — watching women in need being supported by fellow women in Wine Country — that lingered.

Find more information on YWCA Sonoma County and its programs at ywcasc.org.

Editor’s Note: Benovia Winery is partnering with The Press Democrat Journalism Trust in a soon-to-be-announced fundraising effort to provide sustainable local journalism for Sonoma and Napa counties.

You can reach wine writer Peg Melnik at 707-521-5310 or peg.melnik@pressdemocrat.com. On X (Twitter) @pegmelnik.

How to get help

These local, state and national contacts are available to help with various crises:

• National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 888 (call or text)

inRESPONSE mobile mental health support team responding to mental health crises in Santa Rosa: 707-575-HELP (4357)

• YWCA Sonoma County operates a 24/7 domestic violence crisis hotline and a confidential Safe House shelter. Call 707-546-1234 for help.

• Family Justice Center of Sonoma County: 707-565-8255

• Verity, Sonoma County’s rape crisis, trauma, and healing center: 24-hour crisis line 707-545-7273

• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org

• National Alliance on Mental Illness/Sonoma County, provides support groups and resources for families and individuals affected by mental health challenges: 866-960-6264

• 24-hour Emergency Mental Health Unit: 800-746-8181

• Redwood Empire Chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists: recamft.org

Resources also are available for those who have lost someone to suicide:

• Youth Survivors of Suicide Loss Support Group for ages 14-24, meets virtually second and fourth Tuesday every month, 4:30-5:30 p.m. by Buckelew Programs and the Felton Institute. Register and get the Zoom link at bit.ly/4atSS6x.

• SOS: Survivors of Suicide bereavement support group for adults 25 and older by Buckelew Programs, meets virtually the second and fourth Wednesday every month, 7-8:30 p.m. For the Zoom link, call/email 415-444-6000 or SOSinfo@Buckelew.org.

• Sutter VNA & Hospice offers several support groups, including those for survivors of suicide, children who have experienced a loss and parents who have lost a child. Call 707-535-5780 for more information.

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